Once you’ve committed some time to doing what you wanted to do, how do you keep it up? Here are some basic tips that I use to maintain motivation on Dreams of the Week.
· You have to make it fun. If it’s not fun, you won’t want to do it.
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· Don’t give yourself an out. This requires that you understand yourself enough that you
I use to ride my bicycle to work every day, but slowly I started using more and more creative excuses to get out of it, "I'm tired," "It's too dark," "It's too wet," "My legs are sore," "I already biked 3 times this week — that's good enough, right?" Eventually the excuses mounted up so much that I stopped riding.
You have to watch yourself — we can talk ourselves out of just about anything, even things we like doing. Find the root causes of this. It might be that you will want to change your Dream of the Week, that's okay — I do it all the time — or it may be that you need to dig in your heels and ride it out. Know thy self.
· Once you pick a schedule, stick to it.
My wife has gone for a walk every day for the last 3 months, which has been one of the most impressive feats of discipline I have ever witnessed. (Go ahead, try it! See if you can do it in the autumn in Washington.) There have been many opportunities when she could have used any number of excuses (like I had above), but didn’t.
Just the other week we had a nightmare of a night. I took her to the ER because her entire arm was tingling in a bad way, and then after a couple hours of sleep we had to take our dog to the emergency animal hospital because he had a cluster of seizures. She could have used this as an excuse not to walk, but she didn't. That's hardcore. She's badass.
For her, it was important to walk every day and so she started with a daily walk of less than half a mile, but the thing was to do it, to make it part of her day. She did the half mile walk for three weeks before she was sure that she was committed to the schedule she had chosen. She knew that if she found an excuse to take one day off, she would use it as leverage to take more days off, like I had with the biking. She knows herself very well. (And is currently at 2 miles every morning.)
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Similarly, my undergrad writing professor would sit down to write for a minimum of five minutes every day. If he wrote for longer than that, great. But if all he could manage was five minutes, he had met his requirement for the day.
These kinds of habits are good to keep in mind as you consider adding a new routine (a Dream of the Week) to your life.
It's important to take time to really look at what has historically weakened your focus and look at ways to stop getting in your own way. Try setting little goals for yourself to get going and maintain motivation on your Dream of the Week. If all you have is five or twenty minutes a day, start there, and slowly build. Nurture it until it grows. Don't forget to make it fun.

I think you're describing the way true change happens, bit by bit. I've found the past two years at BGI to recur with lessons about this kind of evolutionary change, or way of learning, and I would only ad one thing to it. To admit the inevitability of failure and move past it. If you miss a hit to the routine, fine, but get back to it at the next regularly scheduled moment. Allowing yourself to be human - to err - can get you back up that wall, out on that walk, or into whatever task you're attempting to normalize.
ReplyDeleteErich, I have really been enjoying your blog and this post is no exception.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate that you used specific examples of the types of trickery that our brains try to play on us. A daily practice of just about anything intentional can be incredibly easy some days and really difficult other days. While I was reading your post, it made me think of AA and the daily or even moment to moment reaffirmation of commitment to certain behaviors. Its made me think about my daily commitment to eating foods that make my body happy.
I think another key piece is having a solid plan for what to do and think if you do fail one day. I say this because there is such a difficult line between compassion, enabling, and austerity sometimes. Having a plan for what to do when you "fall off the bandwagon" can be almost as important as the initial commitment.
Thanks for the post Erich. I too have fallen prey to letting one excuse build into another and another until the routine of exercise completely falls apart. I have found that getting my exercise in a way that includes another person helps. I now play tennis twice a week. Every time after we play we set the date and time for the next round. When someone else is committed to a time and place excuses are much harder to justify.
ReplyDeleteI really like the attention to nurturing your commitments and slowly building them. I also really appreciate your use of your wife's story as a point of motivation. She is badass :)
ReplyDeleteErich, I love your frank voice. You've outlined a meditative process recorded through the ages: failing and trying again; over and over again. I've been on a mission to embody an attitude of gratitude. Alongside success I've also had frequent failure; sometimes for moments, sometimes for hours... Your post is an encouragement to keep up the good work. Thank you :-)
ReplyDeleteErich,
ReplyDeleteGreat post, almost kinda follows the ideas we talked about in the Rippl Project. Pick one small thing that you can commit to and make it happen for yourself! Rock on buddy
-Dave
Erich, I'm loving this blog. It's giving me some healthy reminders of things I want to accomplish.
ReplyDeleteI think when I've been successful with making a dream happen, much of it has been due to my commitment. If it's not a strong enough goal, it's easier to listen to those excuses in your head and give in.
I ran my second marathon in October. That meant running 5 days a week for most of the summer and getting up at 7 (before it got too hot) and running for 4 hours every weekend. (I know some people wouldn't find that fun, but I did. Mostly.) I knew if I bailed on the long runs, that race would be HELL. (Or more hellish than it needed to be, anyway.) But like you said, I made it fun - I ran with friends, and set intermediate goals that motivated me and carried me forward.
Now I just need to decide what the next marathon in my life will be. Starting a business? Reinventing my personal brand? An actual marathon? (Well, maybe I'll wait a little while on that last one...)